Let's say you've married the love of your life. In front of God, your family and a licensed minister you make your vows to love and cherish FOREVER. Let's skip forward 3 or so years. Your spouse comes in the door and says that they need to tell you something. You feel the presence of a storm. Something is wrong. What is it? Your spouse tells you they've been unfaithful.
So the question is today, could you forgive them? More importantly, could you save your marriage?
I ran this question through my head this evening after being asked by one of my friends what I would do in this situation. I can easily state that I could forgive my spouse. I don't believe in harboring any resetment towards anyone. It's unhealthy. Could I stay... would I stay?
Honestly I don't know. I have always held on to the notion that I want to get married and stay married, period. My belief has always been that we can work through anything. I believe I could get over the hurt and the humilitiation. I've got to be honest though and say that I would be scared straight to go down that road again. I would be afraid of being hurt and with good reason, don't you think?
I don't have the answer here or one that is remotely close to it. Only thing I can imagine is needed is forgiveness, time, patience, honesty, commitment and lots and lots of PRAYER.
